Our Stories

The Story of Antonina: A Refugee’s Journey to a New Home
Antonina, a 65-year-old Ukrainian refugee, came to the US in October 2022 after spending 3 months in a shelter under severe daily bombing. Antonina was so traumatized that she didn’t leave her room for almost 6 months upon arriving in Stamford, CT. Our English Cafe program was the first event she attended and she found it so warm and welcoming, that she started to attend every session, which ultimately became the turning point in her life. As a result of our socialization program that provided her the support most needed in a person-centered, trauma-informed manner, Antonina relaxed just enough to begin to revisit feelings of safety and community, and even started to feel at home here in the US.
The Story of Laila
Laila grew up in an abusive home. She spent most of her 20s in and out of shelters, unable to keep a job because she was homeless and could not afford an apartment because she didn’t have consistent work. It was a vicious cycle. In spite of these tremendous challenges, at age 30, Laila finished college, got a great marketing job, and could finally put a roof over her head. Shortly after starting this position, Laila was diagnosed with a painful condition that required surgery, but she wasn’t eligible for the two months of paid leave she needed for her recovery. She had finally found security and stability but was poised to lose it all again overnight. Fearful she would end up back on the streets, Laila reached out to Schoke JFS.

Through our emergency assistance funding, Schoke JFS covered two months’ rent and utility bills. With the support of our Case Managers, Laila focused on her health and well-being to ensure her full recovery. A year later, Laila is at the same job, earning enough to support herself, putting away savings, and building a life of security for when she might face another challenge.

The Story of Naomi
Naomi faced many barriers throughout her life. She was diagnosed at a young age with a chronic medical condition that required expensive treatment and endless doctor appointments. She also worked as a home health aide and was assigned to care for an older woman with dementia whose family, sadly, was abusive toward Naomi. This situation led to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD); Naomi was unable to work or care for herself and came to Schoke JFS for help. Our Case Managers were partners and allies to Naomi; they advocated on her behalf with the Department of Social Services to ensure her application was viewed in a timely manner and oversaw the process until she was approved! It was with Schoke JFS’ advocacy and supportive services, including emergency assistance to pay her utility bills and access to food from the Freedberg Family Kosher Food Pantry, that Naomi could remain in her home caring for herself as she had cared for others throughout her life.
The Story of Beverly
Beverly’s childhood trauma affected her for her entire life. By the time she was living in senior housing, her trauma plus additional disabilities that emerged in adulthood developed into a compulsive hoarding disorder. When the fire and health departments got involved, Beverly faced eviction if she could not get her home in order – a task she was mentally and physically unable to do on her own. Beverly’s Schoke JFS Case Manager became her ally and advocate in helping to rebuild her life. Each week they spent hours working together to go through the apartment, decluttering, cleaning and connecting. Our Case Manager aided our client in parting with items she no longer needed, with kindness and respect to the purposes they once served. Inspired by Schoke JFS’ leadership with Beverly and other clients, the City of Stamford invited our Case Management Department to help build a hoarding task force to provide resources and suggest best practices for other agencies throughout the city. Beverly continues to work through her trauma with the support and care of Schoke JFS.
There are so many stories about Superstorm Sandy and how it affected us! A JFS Home Companion was a hero for a senior in our area during the storm and has quite a story to tell.

An 89-year old woman who is not mobile and suffers from advanced Alzheimer’s disease is one of our JFS Home Companion clients. She lives in her own home with a JFS home companion who takes care of her daily needs.

Then Sandy came her way. As the storm was barreling into the East Coast, her son anticipated the possibility of her home lacking heat and power and reserved a hotel room to shelter his mother. Unfortunately, he could only book the room for one night. Frail and uncommunicative, the senior and her aide moved to the hotel room but could not return to her own home after one day’s stay. Can you imagine the confusion and anxiety this elderly person felt? The only alternative was to go to a local shelter in a high school. Her JFS aide accompanied her to the shelter, even though her aide had heat and power in her own home.

Although a safe haven for families and physically strong individuals, this shelter was totally inappropriate for a frail elderly woman. The available food was granola bars, water and beds were low cots in a drafty, large gym which presented a medical risk for this senior. While at the shelter, staff at JFS brought both the aide and her client warm, hearty food to nourish them. Still, our client was confronted with serious medical conditions and was eventually transferred to the hospital. After several days by her side at the shelter, the JFS companion went along to the hospital with her charge. Here, too, JFS staff brought the home companion the food she needed. The senior client recovered and was discharged home after a week long ordeal.

During the week following Sandy, all JFS Home Companions provided uninterrupted service and attendance to their seniors! This dedication is a sign of the exceptional quality training and level of compassion provided by JFS Home Companions.

The JFS Home Companion is a two part program. The first element is the bi-annual, seven-week training sessions (Elayne and James Schoke Training Program) that certify over sixty aides a year to be paired with clients. The program has reached the highest number of clients at almost 170 per year, with over 200 aides placed over the course of the year and staffed by JFS social workers to help seniors age-in-place. The second element includes assessing the needs of clients by a social worker through home visits, match-up of the client with the companion and follow-up on a periodic basis to assure that JFS is providing the most appropriate and comprehensive assistance.

Isrella Knopf, JFS Director of Senior Services said,

“We carefully match our aides with the specific needs and personalities of the clients and their family situations. Both the client and the aide need to be satisfied and working well with the arrangement in order for all concerned to be content.”

The JFS Home Companion provides a broad spectrum of services to clients. These can include: helping seniors create a safe environment in the comfort of their home; assessment and search for a companion who best matches client’s needs and temperament; personalized scheduling of companions (from 2-24 hours for 1-7 days/week; hourly, live-in or sitter service in hospitals); professional screening and training of home companions; social work supervision; home visits and follow-up; temporary or long term care depending on need; and respite for immediate family caregivers.

Home companions are trained to perform tasks that clients have difficulty or are unable to perform themselves, such as meal preparation and clean-up; laundry and linen washing; bed making; exercising and socialization; organizing activities in the home environment; grocery and clothes shopping; and transportation to medical appointments, errands, social and recreational activities.

JFS can also provide Certified Nurses Aides (CNAs) whose duties may also include feeding, bathing, dressing, toileting, tooth brushing and ileostomy care.

“The growth of the JFS Home Companion is a result of people not just living longer but also requiring real hands-on care at home,” added Ms. Knopf. “We have adapted to the evolving needs by adding CNAs to our program and plan to continue to adjust as the needs and demands of the Westport community change.”


Our Stories

A Tale of Storm Sandy and a JFS Senior Client

There are so many stories about Superstorm Sandy and how it affected us! A JFS Home Companion was a hero for a senior in our area during the storm and has quite a story to tell.

An 89-year old woman who is not mobile and suffers from advanced Alzheimer’s disease is one of our JFS Home Companion clients. She lives in her own home with a JFS home companion who takes care who takes care of her daily needs.

Then Sandy came her way. As the storm was barreling into the East Coast, her son anticipated the possibility of her home lacking heat and power and reserved a hotel room to shelter his mother. Unfortunately, he could only book the room for one night. Frail and uncommunicative, the senior and her aide moved to the hotel room but could not return to her own home after one day’s stay. Can you imagine the confusion and anxiety this elderly person felt? The only alternative was to go to a local shelter in a high school. Her JFS aide accompanied her to the shelter, even though her aide had heat and power in her own home.

Although a safe haven for families and physically strong individuals, this shelter was totally inappropriate for a frail elderly woman. The available food was granola bars, water and beds were low cots in a drafty, large gym which presented a medical risk for this senior. While at the shelter, staff at JFS brought both the aide and her client warm, hearty food to nourish them. Still, our client was confronted with serious medical conditions and was eventually transferred to the hospital. After several days by her side at the shelter, the JFS companion went along to the hospital with her charge. Here, too, JFS staff brought the home companion the food she needed. The senior client recovered and was discharged home after a week long ordeal.

During the week following Sandy, all JFS Home Companions provided uninterrupted service and attendance to their seniors! This dedication is a sign of the exceptional quality training and level of compassion provided by JFS Home Companions.

The JFS Home Companion is a two part program. The first element is the bi-annual, seven-week training sessions (Elayne and James Schoke Training Program) that certify over sixty aides a year to be paired with clients. The program has reached the highest number of clients at almost 170 per year, with over 200 aides placed over the course of the year and staffed by JFS social workers to help seniors age-in-place. The second element includes assessing the needs of clients by a social worker through home visits, match-up of the client with the companion and follow-up on a periodic basis to assure that JFS is providing the most appropriate and comprehensive assistance.

Isrella Knopf, JFS Director of Senior Services said,

“We carefully match our aides with the specific needs and personalities of the clients and their family situations. Both the client and the aide need to be satisfied and working well with the arrangement in order for all concerned to be content.”

The JFS Home Companion provides a broad spectrum of services to clients. These can include: helping seniors create a safe environment in the comfort of their home; assessment and search for a companion who best matches client’s needs and temperament; personalized scheduling of companions (from 2-24 hours for 1-7 days/week; hourly, live-in or sitter service in hospitals); professional screening and training of home companions; social work supervision; home visits and follow-up; temporary or long term care depending on need; and respite for immediate family caregivers.

Home companions are trained to perform tasks that clients have difficulty or are unable to perform themselves, such as meal preparation and clean-up; laundry and linen washing; bed making; exercising and socialization; organizing activities in the home environment; grocery and clothes shopping; and transportation to medical appointments, errands, social and recreational activities.

JFS can also provide Certified Nurses Aides (CNAs) whose duties may also include feeding, bathing, dressing, toileting, tooth brushing and ileostomy care.

“The growth of the JFS Home Companion is a result of people not just living longer but also requiring real hands-on care at home,” added Ms. Knopf. “We have adapted to the evolving needs by adding CNAs to our program and plan to continue to adjust as the needs and demands of the Westport community change.”


Contact Us

For more information about the JFS Home Companion, please contact Isrella Knopf at 203-921-4161 or email
iknopf@ctjfs.org